Achieving Your Sexual Peak
Richard Gaines, M.D., FAARM, ABAARM
You probably have heard about “sexual peaks,” and that they occur at different times for men and for women, somewhere around “18” for men, and considerably later for women somewhere in the “40s.” While there is some biological truth to this common belief, it really has very little impact on your overall sexual desires and performance.
One thing that is not in dispute, is that men and women both start to be sexually attracted to one another soon after puberty, though to a somewhat differing degree.
Libido, or sex drive is largely determined by hormones, so it stands to reason that any kind of sexual peak, would occur when those hormones that influence your desire for sexual activity, are at their “peak” levels.
Around puberty the endocrine systems of both men and women start releasing the hormones that stimulate sexual attraction. For boys that means more testosterone, for girls, estrogen. If we take it from there, with a strictly biological point of view, sex hormone output in both men and women reaches its physiological “peak,” in the 20s. Yet common wisdom says only men “peak” at that time, and for women it occurs later, in the 30s or even 40s.
What this says in reality is that your individual true sexual peak has as much to do with many other factors and influences, then merely the levels of sex hormones in your blood. Many women are as sexually active as men in their 20s, and today, both men and women are enjoying active and healthy sex lives well into their 50s and beyond.
So, in reality, while biologically there may be such a thing as a “sexual peak,” it really matters very little to anyone who would like to perform at his or her “personal peak” throughout his or her sexually active lifetime.
Aging and Sexual PerformanceSo, does libido, or sexual desire, naturally decrease with age?
It would be foolish to think that the changes that come with growing older do not have any impact on sexual performance.
But, it is just as foolish to assume that those changes mean you can’t have a healthy and active sex life.
Peak Performance at Any Age
While having great sex at any age is contingent on many factors from emotional health to overall fitness, the truth is there are physical changes that can effect performance.
For men, you may notice once you get past 35, it could take longer to achieve an erection than when you were younger, or you could have trouble getting an erection at all, or the time it takes to get a second erection — the refractory period – could be longer.
For older women, you may notice less lubrication and other vaginal changes, lessening ability to achieve orgasm, less frequent or intense orgasms.
These changes do occur, and depending on your individual circumstances, may or may not, have a significant negative impact on your sex life. But, if you feel they are, there are many things that you can do to keep up an active and healthy sex life.
You can improve your sexual performance at any age by:
- Improving your diet – Cut down on foods that “age you” – excess calories, saturated fat, cholesterol, sugar and salt.
- Exercise more.
- If you smoke, quit – if you don’t smoke, don’t start
- Get enough sleep.
- Reduce stress.
- Reduce alcohol consumption.
- Make more time for sex.
If you do all of these things you will improve not only your sex life, but also your overall wellness! But, if you still feel you need more of a boost in the bedroom, you may be a candidate for sexual wellness optimization.
Benefits of Sexual Wellness OptimizationThere are revolutionary treatments available to optimize your sexual wellness at any age.
Sexual wellness treatments to improve libido and performance range from bioidentical hormone replacement therapies, to all natural sexual enhancement protocols such as the Gains Enhancement.
The Gains Enhancement for Men is a revolutionary new procedure that uses platelet rich plasma and the growth factors in your own blood to improve sexual performance. Men who have used the Gains Enhancement have reported achieving bigger, stronger, and more sustainable erections in a single doctor’s visit.
The Gains Enhancement is just one way we can help men and women enjoy the best sex of their life, any time in their lives.
The idea of a “sexual peak” really is kind of a myth. Interest in sex can decline or improve at any age, many factors, from your relationship with your partner to your ability to perform, come into play.
The truth is, you can have a rewarding and exciting sex life from 22 to 82 –frequency may ebb and flow, but there is no reason why sexual pleasure, or sexual activity absolutely has to decrease with age.
Do you think sex is wrong or “dirty” after a certain age?
Are you a person in your 40s or 50s, who is not afraid to say sex is better now than it was in your 20s? If so why?
Is there any age limit to feeling or being “sexy?”
Start the conversation below.